How sweet it is to be back home in Oregon! After dealing with flight delays, bad weather, and sleep deprivation, we’re ready to stay put for awhile! We took a few days to get settled back in and of course snuggle our fur-child!
It’s also a relief to sit down in front of a calendar and plan for the rest of this month, as well as for the busy year ahead. Unfortunately I’ve had one issue that’s been slowing me down… negativity!
When I first started a blog I was a needle in the internet haystack of blogs. It didn’t matter what I published because the only person commenting was my mother! Now that my traffic has increased significantly and with the help of social media turning some posts into online wildfire, the opinions and voices of all kinds of strangers have been invited into my corner of the web. And those voices aren’t always the nicest ones..
In the beginning you can take a few negative comments in stride and laugh at the unintelligible dribble that was slung at you, but after a while, those comments can slowly eat at you. Even someone just pointing out a small mistake or telling you THEIR way of doing something can come off as an attack. You go on the defensive and it’s tough to fight the urge to just tell them to piss off. After handling a significant amount of negative or nasty comments both on the blog and even sometimes on my personal Facebook from people I know, I’ve come up with a few tips to share with you on how to deal with them..
1. Take a breath. You may need to take a breath for a day or two even before responding. Maybe the author didn’t intend the comment to come off negative, but if you were already feeling defensive that day, you might have read it in a negative tone. Wait until you’re in better spirits and respond calmly.
2. Thank them. Yes.. you spent half a day typing up an article that you deemed as flawless, but someone still found a typo, inconsistency, or didn’t agree with it. Be thankful that they took the time to actually read your post or at least the brunt of it and then took the time to fill out a comment box. It’s important to acknowledge differing opinions and see it from another side. I once wrote a post about how much I hated birthdays and didn’t see the point in making a big fuss about them, but I received a comment that changed my mind. She wrote that they were important to family and friends to celebrate you coming onto this earth. It really made me view my birthday differently and also made me appreciate my friends and family all the more.
3. When all else fails.. block them. Profanity? Insults? Don’t stand for it. More than likely you pay for your domain, your hosting, and supplies/ingredients that make your blog posts possible. It might be on the worldwide web for everyone to see, but at the end of the day, this is YOUR space. Don’t tolerate vulgarity or harassment in any form. Make sure you have your comment settings set appropriately so that you moderate each and every comment. Don’t allow anonymous comments either. Internet trolls will attack you with the lowest words because they’re able to hide behind a mask of anonymity. If it still persists, delete and/or ban them if you feel it’s necessary.
I know it’s tough to keep a positive attitude all the time because let’s be real… sometimes people just suck.. but each time you handle it in a mature, calm, and optimistic response, you gain strength and respect by not stooping to their level.
I hope everyone has a POSITIVE and productive day!